It’s frustrating, but I’m learning to live with it.Dating is just one of the many social interactions that I’ve grown to dread, but I am determined not to give in to the overwhelming instinct to avoid it altogether.
But, unbeknown to my date, while I’m doing my very best impression of a swan, I'm far from the outward picture of calm.
They couldn't afford to buy a hamburger in the 1930s, even on a date.
Walter Schmitt says at one time there were three soda fountains in Gresham.
I manage my anxiety using a few methods that have worked for me, but many people with anxiety seek help from health professionals, which can be very effective. The prospect of approaching a good-looking stranger in person fills me with absolute horror. When I’m messaging a match on Tinder or Hinge, I feel more confident and reassured just knowing that I talk to a member of the opposite sex without blushing or feeling sick.
Getting to know someone ahead of a date really helps to assuage any fears I have about first encounters.
In 2006, Ted wrote the last one in the series and collected the poems into a limited edition book entitled, "Out of that Moment." In this video segment, Ted (right) reads a Valentine's Day poem that has a rural theme, "Barn Owl." We also have a video podcast version of this poem on the Media Resources page.